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In this episode, I'm talking about how to remove the crap around yourself, stop hustling, and start living a better life. We will dive into why high-achievers have such a hard time feeling content and talk about what you can do to start actually feeling better now. And we will talk about why you need to learn to do less of the things that don't matter and prioritize the things that do.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2QW0adG

Direct download: 128_-_Do_more_Be_more_Live_more.mp3
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In today's episode I'm diving deep into why the idea of life balance is such a pet peeve of mine. I'll tell you why this is just another way for us to get caught up in perfectionism and shame. We'll also talk about why discomfort and growth is essential if we want to have resilience in the face of the difficult things life will throw at us. I'm inviting you to escape the trap of life balance and instead go after your wildest dreams. Tell me how it goes!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2FnX7UZ

Direct download: 127_-_Life_balance.mp3
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Disappointment is just a thought, feeling, or story. 

Listen in to this episode as I share several stories about avoiding disappointment and why it's so unnecessary. If you're willing to face your disappointment and remember that you're just telling yourself a story, you'll be able to push past uncomfortable feelings and blow your own mind. That's what I want for you in 2020 my friends!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2MPqO5c

Direct download: 126_-_Disappointment_is_part_of_the_process.mp3
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Today I’m talking about learning lessons from the everyday things around us, and how we can approach problems differently to radically change our lives. I want to share a recent client success story that really epitomizes what a different perspective can do and how you can approach problems in a similar way.

Being willing to accept new ideas and advice can give you a stroke of imagination that can revolutionize the way you think about your problems.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2t0rFZK

Direct download: 125_-_Life_is_a_classroom...what_your_dryer_will_teach_you.mp3
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On today’s show, I’m talking about why you need to take back your own validation and start to focus on liking yourself before making others like a version of you that isn’t true.

If you spend all your time trying to get people to like you, you aren’t going to like yourself nearly enough, which doesn’t serve you in the long run.

Join me in learning how you can choose what you like about yourself and how you can be more authentic and prouder of who you are.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/38Ji2PG

Direct download: 124_-_Its_my_job_to_like_me.mp3
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Today, we’re talking about why comparing yourself to characters on television is so easy, yet so paralyzing for accepting your true life. While it can be a fun pastime, getting too invested can be bad for your self-image.

By watching and comparing our lives to fictional ones, we create beliefs that have no real basis in reality.

Tune in and let’s think about how we can enjoy stories without undermining our own ability to live imperfect lives!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/38p3CUy

Direct download: 123_-_TV_paralyzes_you.mp3
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Today, we’re talking about cutting out the idea of “selfish” and replacing it with self-care and boundaries. By establishing healthy boundaries, we can set the terms of our emotional engagement.

When you start to take care of yourself, you have so much more capacity and resilience to walk with and support other people in your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2DKGuBK

Direct download: 122_-_Lets_banish_the_word_selfish.mp3
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Having gratitude for the blessings in your life can alter the way you view things that happen, and it makes you realize that the little things are accomplishments.

Listen in and think about how we can be more deliberate and gracious for all of the good and bad things that happen every day. When you change the way you approach your life, you can change what life gives you.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2OKOnwm

Direct download: 121_-_The_power_of_gratitude.mp3
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Today, I want to talk about why you need to stop worrying about all the things that could go wrong and focus on reasonably managing the risks. As soon as you relax and worry less, you will start to see positive things coming your way by learning from the mistakes you will inevitably make.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/35kmXUN

Direct download: 120_-_Stop_worrying_about_making_mistakes.mp3
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Today, we’re talking about releasing skepticism and letting yourself be more open to trusting yourself and others. When we are skeptical, we place roadblocks that slow us down and close off our ability to seize our dreams and live life to the fullest. I want to share some ways you can still think critically without being overly cynical about situations.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2KfumMZ

Direct download: 119_-_What_skepticism_is_costing_you.mp3
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On this episode, we’re talking about identifying and changing our own “energy vampire” tendencies. By being deliberate about the way we approach connection with others, we can create healthier relationships and stronger connections.

We can choose what energy we bring into situations; we don’t have to be energy vampires full of worry.

Tune in and think about how we can be more deliberate about what’s going into our brains. Through confidence and compassion, we can find more enjoyment in the imperfections of the everyday.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/32cSJ3Z

Direct download: 118_-_Energy_vampire.mp3
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Getting off the sideline can be difficult, but once we are on the stage of our lives, it is incredibly empowering to actively pursue our passions.

On today’s show, we’re talking about what we can do to take a more active role in our lives and how you can overcome the fear of being uncomfortable. I want to share some thoughts on how to show up and learn from new challenges.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2Wug8wK

Direct download: 117_-Sitting_on_the_sidelines_of_your_life_.mp3
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Back when I did live radio, I had Simon Sinek on my show and it turned out to be one of the most impactful interviews I ever did. In that interview, he helped me understand why I am the way I am and why the work I do is so important to me.

Join me on today’s show as we think about our “why” and how you can show up completely for those you love.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2P7cY03

Direct download: 116_-_What_Simon_Sinek_revealed_to_me.mp3
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Behind every goal, there is an unspoken promise we make that it will somehow make everything perfect, but it’s often a false story that lets us down.

On today’s show, we’re taking a harder look at these promises, figuring out where they come from and what we think they’ll bring us.

Lean in and work with me as we unravel these promises and find new ways to allow the world to be messy.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/33jAQ4y

Direct download: 115_-_The_Promise.mp3
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Today, I want to show you how you can keep an eye on your capacity for other people while still being compassionate. By being more intentional about what you say yes to, you are able to control your energy and emotions.

Tune in and let’s think about how we can approach boundaries in a compassionate and intentional way to make our relationships as supportive as possible.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2MrDdLR

Direct download: 114_-_Establishing_boundaries.mp3
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Today, I’m sharing my reflections and 13 small bits of knowledge that I have learned while making the podcast from intrinsic value to learning how to be more compassionate.

By learning to be more compassionate and thoughtful, you can become your own best friend and support yourself through whatever changes come along.

Join me as we celebrate 13 years of empowerment and lessons about bringing change into your life, one episode at a time!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2nnAyKK

Direct download: 113_-_Really_13_years.mp3
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On today’s show, we’re talking about adjusting our words so we can be clearer and make ourselves heard without feeling like we’re imposing on others.

When we are clear about what we want, we can be empowered to share our ideas and find the success we deserve.

Listen in and learn what little changes you can make in the way you think that can have major impacts on the way you live.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2lhgGHS

Direct download: 112_-_Remove_just.mp3
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On this week’s episode, I’m talking about the process of adapting back to your life after learning something outside of your routine. Pulling partially from recent experience, I want to share how you can incorporate lessons without alienating those around you.

It is so crucial to feel your emotions and to use the ‘white space’ to get what you need in the re-entry process.

Join me as we make space for ourselves and think about how we can bring our loved ones along in our process of continual growth.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2lZMS2o

Direct download: 111_-_Re-entry__Integration.mp3
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Today, we are talking about the importance of letting yourself dream beyond old beliefs and how believing in yourself can lead to things you never could picture yourself doing.

If you allow yourself to dream without attaching your self-worth to those dreams coming true, you’ll unlock the potential that you’ve been limiting for years.

Listen in to find out how you can start to imagine all the incredible possibilities in your life and keep yourself open to a world of opportunities!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2k954pR

Direct download: 110_-_Letting_yourself_dream.mp3
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People often search and search outside of themselves for love and unconditional love. However, love is inside all of us. When you can connect with that part of yourself you can experience a whole-ness that can’t be found when searching for it on the outside.

[Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/hiro-boga-ww/]

Direct download: Love_with_Hiro_Boga.mp3
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When we see if thoughts are true or not, we can start to understand the underlying reasons why we might be thinking that way. By understanding those reasons, you can figure out what it is you need.

Reframing how you approach less than enjoyable thoughts can add so much positivity and joy to your life and relationships.

Listen in and learn how to let the thoughts flow through you instead of controlling your happine

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2ZAiTAs

Direct download: 109_-_The_end_of_bad_thoughts.mp3
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All of our journeys are marked with struggles. We see limitations for ourselves and hear little voices that say things like "I am not qualified, I am a fraud". Instead of letting these voices and limitations stop us, we can embrace the struggle and move forward.

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/nancy-duarte-ww/]

 

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Humans are hard-wired to create and tell stories; it’s how we see and make sense of the world. However, not every story is productive.

It is important to ask, “What do I tell myself?” and “How do I share my life story?”

It takes a lot of work to understand where these beliefs come from, but it is so important to do. When we recognize the unconscious stories we have about ourselves, we can choose to reframe them to become intentional statements of purpose.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2Pgbcvp

Direct download: 108_-_Reframing_your_story.mp3
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Our mothers are the foundations of our lives. Our relationships are complicated with them. 

All sorts of feelings emerge when we think of our mothers. Love, anger, appreciation, gratitude, shame are a handful of the feelings that can be connected to our relationships with our mothers.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/lisa-erspamer-ww/

 

 

Direct download: Lisa_Erspamer__Moms.mp3
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We often imagine the end result of our labors being this picturesque place where nothing goes wrong and we are perfectly happy with everything that is happening. Most times, that is not really the case... but that doesn’t mean we aren’t in the Promised Land.

Join me and think about the things that are going well in your life and enjoying your personal Promised Land for whatever you have in your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/30o9JnE

Direct download: 107_-_The_Promised_Land.mp3
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Jen and I ask the questions: How do I want to be a friend? What kind of friendships do I want to have? What effort am I willing to make for those friends?

Answering those questions for yourself will help you gain clarity about what you want from friendships, but another piece of this is our own perception. 

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/jen-louden-ww/]

Direct download: Jen_Louden_1_Friendships.mp3
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People liking (or not liking) us says nothing about who we are as people.

Oftentimes, other people are simply not a fit for us and we don’t have the capacity for them in our lives. And there is nothing wrong with that.

Listen in today as we discuss how we can be ourselves and how others will naturally gravitate to us if they are a good fit! 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2GUg6ra

Direct download: 106_-_Other_people_liking_you.mp3
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How do your thoughts affect your reality?  Pam Grout is the author of the New York Times bestseller E2: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments that Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality. She joined me in 2013 to talk about thoughts, reality, and energy.

Each morning, Pam wakes up and tells herself, “something amazingly awesome will happen to me today.” This is a simple practice that can change your mind and thoughts. 

Using methods like this to change and reframe our thoughts, we can practice joy and practice being happy.

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/pam-grout-ww/]

Direct download: Pam_Grout.mp3
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Our immediate reaction to when things go wrong is to wallow in it or blame ourselves or others, but we can choose not to and to think practically instead.

By choosing to prioritize the important things and not wasting energy on unnecessary emotions, we can navigate problems way more effectively.

Join me on today’s show to think about how to approach missteps and listen to some recent examples of learning how to deal with things going wrong.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2Tca1eP

Direct download: 105_-_When_shit_happens.mp3
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Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. is a social psychologist, speaker, best selling author of Succeed, and the co-author of Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World to Power Success and Influence.

Heidi joined me in 2013 to help us understand how people focus. The two main types of focus in her research are promotion and prevention. When you understand the different types of focus, you can motivate yourself and everyone around you by using language that resonates.

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/heidi-grant-halvorson-ww/]

Direct download: Heidi_Halvorson_Motivating_Others.mp3
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It can feel like we are taking on all the problems of the world but it's discouraging when it seems like nothing changes.

Today, I want to talk about finding clarity with what you value and being less ambiguous about what you actually want to achieve. When you refocus on what success actually means, you can build self-confidence and self-worth by acknowledging all the changes that you have created so far.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2Y6wPlG

Direct download: 104_-_Stop_being_ambiguous.mp3
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Do you tend to worry about how smart you are? Or are you able to enjoy learning without it being an outcome-driven activity? Those are examples of different mindsets about intelligence and learning. One of those mindsets makes us get in our own way and the other can help us grow.

Carol Dweck is a world renowned Stanford University psychologist and the author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Her groundbreaking research is breaking the myths of where success really comes from.

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/carol-dweck-ww/]

Direct download: Carol_Dweck_Why_People_Succeed.mp3
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Oftentimes we live in fear of other people judging us if we don’t do exactly what they want, but the reality is that other people will always judge. And, ultimately, you have to let them.

If you simply let others judge without giving it much meaning, then you are using less energy being yourself while they waste energy judging.

I want you to join me on this episode as we think about being our most authentic selves and not allowing the judgment of others to use up our precious brain juices.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2JVRS0u

Direct download: 103_-_The_Freedom_to_Showing_Up_Authentically.mp3
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Teenagers are amazing observers. They easily pick up on things like instances when our actions don’t match our values, when we’re about to give them criticism, and the times that we make judgments about them.

From puberty to sexuality to self-concept, teen’s lives are changing in many ways. There is so much going on with them that it can be hard to understand their behaviors and attitudes. So how do we connect?

The answer lies in our parenting style. Parenting is an art and finding your own parenting style that is based on your personality and values can help you navigate all of the parenting decisions that you make.

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/mike-riera-ww/]

Direct download: Mike_Riera.mp3
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If we argue with reality, then we lose. So, don’t argue with it and learn to laugh at the ridiculousness instead.

Listen in to this episode as we talk about how we can change our mindset in regards to these truly trivial things and not let the little things bother us. I use a recent personal triumph over negative thinking to show how can you let go of these small bothers and enjoy the richness present in your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2Jzy303

Direct download: 102_-_Make_It_Better.mp3
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Anger. You probably sometimes find yourself getting angry about work, relationships, or circumstances. It’s a powerful emotion, but is your anger effective at creating lasting change? Do you work hard trying to diminish your anger? 

Tune in to hear Harriet give us insight about our anger and how it can help our lives. We discuss how anger can be used effectively versus how it can be dysfunctional. Hint: ignoring anger or venting anger will not identify and address the underlying problems from which anger stems.

Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/harriert-lerner-anger-ww/]

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What are the scripts that you have for others? Do you use these scripts as a test?

This episode is meant to break you out of those old scripts so you can have healthier relationships with yourself and others. I’ll share how we can dispatch with these scripts so we can be more of ourselves and let others be themselves in return. I’ll talk about how you can get rid of those expectations, how to deal with the scripts of other people, and what you can get out of freeing yourself of scripts.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2S6JcrW

Direct download: 101_-_Scripts_are_toxic_for_your_relationships.mp3
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Former think-tank exec, business strategist, publicist, and one of the most popular and original personal development and career-advice writers online, Danielle LaPorte joins me in this interview which originally aired in 2012.  

Whether or not you are an entrepreneur, the concepts of trusting yourself, relying on yourself, and doing your own work can help to put you in the driver’s seat of your life. The entrepreneurial spirit is one of the best personal development experiences around.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/danielle-laporte-ww/

Direct download: Danielle_LaPorte_Fire_Starter_Sessions.mp3
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If you've been ghosted by a friend, you've probably asked yourself, "Now what?"

Today's episode answers the question of what you should do if a friend ghosts you. I'll offer you some questions to ask yourself when this happens that will help you get out of your own mind drama and consider that your friend may not be ghosting you with bad intentions. And I'll talk about how to understand what you want out of your relationships, how to have courageous conversations with a friend, and what to do if you're finding that your friendship is no longer a good fit.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/328Foeo

Direct download: 100_-_Ghosted_by_your_friend_-_now_what.mp3
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Motivation is based on drives: biological, reward + punishment, and purpose. For the most part, the nature of our work and tasks have changed significantly from the nineteenth to twentieth to twenty-first centuries. Have motivators kept up?

Daniel Pink is the author of four provocative books about changing the world of work including the New York Times best sellers, A Whole New Mind and Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us. During Dan’s first guest appearance on the podcast, we discussed a changing work world and the new rules of work in an outsourced, automated age. 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/dan-pink-ww/

Direct download: Dan_Pink_Motivation_2011.mp3
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In today's (headphones-on) episode, I'm asking you what "good enough" is for you. I'll walk through why this concept is so shame-triggering for many people and talk about why you are good enough already. We'll also touch on the importance of accepting our imperfections and our story, why you'll never be completely free of shame, and why measuring yourself against the "good enough" standard is a distraction + waste of precious time.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2KAA0ep

Direct download: 99_-_What_the_fck_is_good_enough.mp3
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Oprah calls today's guest the "Marriage Whisperer." Harville Hendrix is the author of the New York Times bestselling book Getting the Love You Want. It’s one of my favorite and most valued books of all time. 

Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt created Imago Relationship Therapy, a form of marriage therapy that takes a relationship approach rather than individual approach to problem solving in a marriage.

However, even the "Marriage Whisperer" can have marital problems.  After years of marriage Harville and his wife Helen found themselves in the same situation as their clients - their relationship was in trouble and on the verge of divorce.

 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/harville-hendrix-marriage-ww/

Direct download: Harville_Hendrix.mp3
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In this episode we investigate why you might be afraid to ask for what you want. I run through some of the common stories + reasons that we aren't asking for what we want or need, and why being afraid to ask is keeping you from being the leader of your own life. I also talk about why telling other people what you want (instead of expecting them to guess) is way better for your relationships. And I give you some tips for implementing this practice ASAP.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2MXphN3

Direct download: 98_-_Asking_for_what_you_want.mp3
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Simon Sinek is known for inspiring people to do the things that inspire them. His mission comes from the personal experience of seeking fulfillment and passion in his work and life.

Simon's book is Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/simon-sinek-ww/

Direct download: SimonSinek.mp3
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Today I'm breaking down my model of capacity + energy as a form of time management. Instead of feeling like a failure whenever I don't accomplish whatever my time block says, I keep track of my capacity + energy for coaching, self-care, swimming, and everything else. I talk about how to figure out what your capacity is, why you should accept where you are right now, and how to sustainably build your capacity over time. And I also share some of my experiences with feeling like I'm going to break my capacity, and what to do when that happens.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2wIcYt5

Direct download: 97_-_Capacity_and_energy.mp3
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This summer, I’m rebroadcasting some of my favorite How She Really Does It episodes from earlier years of my show in a 12-week series called Wisdom Wednesdays. I’m bringing these twelve shows back to the surface for you so that they can bring a little bit of wisdom into your life each week (without you having to dig through 600+ episodes).

In this episode, I interview the late Dr. David Hawkins. Dr. Hawkins was a nationally renowned psychiatrist, physician, researcher, and lecturer. He was also an internationally known spiritual teacher, author, and speaker on the subject of advanced spiritual states, consciousness research, and the Realization of the Presence of God as Self. In this episode, he and I discuss one of his best selling books Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/dr-david-hawkins-ww/

 

 

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I don't do interviews much anymore, but sometimes I come across someone with a story that I think my audience just has to hear. That's exactly what happened with today's guest, Tembi Locke, when I read her memoir From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Home. 

Tembi's story is one of courage, connection, loss, and grief. But more than anything, it's a story about the power of love to help us build bridges to other people and through difficult times.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2ETh4TQ

Direct download: 96_-_Tembi_Locke_Interview.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

In this episode, I'm talking about White Knight syndrome and times I've identified it in myself. You'll discover the connection between vulnerability and wanting to be saved, how to remind yourself that you are the leader of your own life, and why you should stop looking for the easy path forward and embrace saving yourself.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2MeUs6i

Direct download: 95_-_White_Knight_Syndrome.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

When crafting a vision, there are several key things to keep in mind: Stop playing small. Give yourself permission to want what you want. And accept that obstacles are part of the process.

This episode is full of guidance for creating a vision in each important area of your life. I've found visions to be a really powerful tool for crafting the life I have now - a life I really love.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2HLlSep

Direct download: 94_-_Creating_the_vision_for_what_you_want.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

I changed my story about money by learning how to manage my mindset. 

In this episode, I'm sharing my story about money, shame, and how I realized that money was just a neutral - not good, or bad, or straight-up evil. I'm talking about why your relationship with yourself is the core of your relationship to money, how we pick up ideas from society that we don't really believe, and how to rehabilitate your relationship with money.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2Q5Mafe

Direct download: 93_-_The_shame_of_money.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

To get to a place of mastery, you have to go through the perception of wasting time through falling down. That’s how we get there. You have to embrace the process.

Join me on the podcast this week to discover how you can slow down, calm down, and tackle new things from a mindful and considered place, without panic and a fear of making mistakes. Talent is created, not born. With that in mind, what can we do to create mastery when doing something new and uncomfortable? Well, tune in and find out.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/30aFtwQ

Direct download: 92_-_Being_a_Newbie.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Direct download: BONUS...Last_Chance_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:00am PDT

In this episode, I'm talking about the ways perfectionism can sneak up on you. I share some of my own encounters with perfectionism and how I bring attention, compassion, and acceptance to those moments so I can stop getting hung up on being perfect. And I give you some tips for gently steering yourself away from perfectionism and toward who you really are, so you can calm down and put down your armor.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2V4H9sW

Direct download: 91_-_Perfection_is_sneaky.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Listen in as I talk in depth about the different lenses we use in our lives and the importance of knowing which one you're using at a given time. I share how I've identified these lenses in my own life and work and how I've changed them when they aren't serving me. I also give you some easy steps for choosing a lens that feels better + requires less mental energy to maintain than a lens of fear or shame.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2US6PJ7

Direct download: 90_-_The_lens_we_look_through.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Listen in on the podcast this week as I discuss some of the self-limiting beliefs that I hear from clients, and how to overcome them. These beliefs that we hold onto can create a lot of shame. Whether it’s around money, relationships, work, or any aspect of life, this episode is going to help you identify what’s holding you back and give you the insight you need to really probe these thoughts, without judgment. I’m all about the place where inspiration and possibility meet, and limiting beliefs are never welcome.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2GhrI6w

Direct download: 89_-_Limiting_beliefs.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Success is messy. It requires perseverance + a commitment to telling yourself a different story.

Listen in as I talk about several of my clients and their experiences with finding success. I share some of the issues we worked through, including how they would often armor up, avoid courageous conversations, and self-sabotage. I also discuss why it's important to be careful what evidence + stories you're using to shape your idea of success, and why the journey is such an essential part of any achievement.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2WYgb2B

Direct download: 88_-_What_success_looks_like_without_the_fairy_godmother.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

You have to let go of the need for perfection. With it, let go of your fear of burnout.

In this episode, I talk about the relationship between burnout + perfectionism. I get real about the fact that long days, challenging employees and bosses, and struggling to juggle it all are just a part of life. And I dive into how believing that we can be perfect is just a way for us to avoid some of life's difficult realities.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2K3lNqP

Direct download: 087-Burnout...the_Cause.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

To stop settling for "as good as it gets," you have to notice the gap between what you have and what you want. And you have to take small, courageous steps to close that gap and make your dream a reality.

Listen in to this episode as I talk about how I stopped settling for "good enough" and have helped clients do the same. I'll share some tips for being a compassionate observer of your desires and I'll give you some suggestions for having courageous conversations to close the gaps in your life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2JH0Z8t

Direct download: 86_-_Stop_settling_for_as_good_as_it_gets.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

It's much easier to believe in yourself when things are going well. But you have to believe in your ability to change even when things are difficult. 

This episode is all about how and why you should believe that change is possible for you. I'll break down the step-by-step process for believing that you are capable of change and how to be kind with yourself along the way.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2CufExH

Direct download: 85_-_Change.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Success is built on a pile of failures. You've got to fail - a lot - and keep learning, growing, and challenging yourself if you really want to feel successful. This can apply to any part of your life, including work, home, and money. 

Failure is an integral part of success, and it makes the moment you achieve your goal even sweeter. But you have to learn how to fail with curiosity and a growth mindset, rather than beat yourself up about it.

For this episode, I'm talking all about success, how to define it for yourself, and how to shut out all the noise about what you "should" do if you want to be "successful". 

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2TGK6yj

Direct download: 84_-_Success.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Being a people pleaser or an approval whore means we are selling ourselves out in order to gain someone else's approval. We act in a way that's not in alignment with who we are or who we want to be.

I talk about the eight steps you can take to stop approval whoring (or approval whore recovery, as I like to call it). The keys to this process include accepting the fact that you're selling yourself out to gain approval, not judging yourself for this behavior, and slowing down the process of seeking acceptance when you feel shame.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2StlEvD

Direct download: 82-How_to_stop_approval_whoring.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Choosing your words carefully allows you to take back control over how you define your emotions + beliefs. Instead of being dictated by negative language, consciously using positive words to describe yourself + your boundaries can help you reframe difficult situations.

Today, I share how my clients and I have worked on using more empowering language to reframe issues that range from work conflicts, familial boundaries, and self-perception.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2tigoRp

Direct download: 80-Choose_your_words_carefully.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

You don't have to be perfect to be an adult. Realizing that you will mess up + move on is part of adulting.

Tune in to this week's episode as I talk about all things adulting and share my tips about what it means to take care of yourself + lead your life in the direction you want to go.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2SqhpVN

Direct download: 79-Im_adulting.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

In order to build authentic friendships and relationships, we first have to build a deep, committed, authentic connection with ourselves.

In this episode, I'm talking about the ups and downs of coming to accept yourself as you are. It takes courage to do this, but the rewards of stripping away the perfectionist armor that keeps us weighed down are huge.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2G6u49Q

Direct download: 78-The_truth_about_authenticity.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

On this episode, I'm talking about two types of focus - soft focus and hard focus - and what they look + feel like. 

Soft focus feels like flow, play, and learning. Hard focus feels like forcing it, gritting your teeth, and telling yourself you HAVE to get this thing done - or you're a failure.

Listen in to this episode as I describe my own experience with soft and hard focus and how I'm learning to apply this lens across my life.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2FFSCXJ

Direct download: 77-Two_types_of_focus.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

This episode is all about why you should say YES when there's an opportunity for a courageous conversation in your life, whether it's personal or professional. These conversations are a chance for you to practice showing up as your best self in tough times.

The path to success isn't a straight line - it's a messy, vulnerable, and sometimes frightening process, and you'll have to have courageous conversations on the way.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2QTftjQ

Direct download: 76-Say_YES_to_courageous_conversations.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

In this episode, I dive deep into the connection between enoughness, being yourself, and using your values to guide your life.

Your badass self is already inside of you. And you can bring the badass out by working through shame, leaning into the areas of your life where you feel most rooted, and by making time to connect and recharge with loved ones and activities.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2AAokBH

Direct download: 75-Become_the_Leader_of_Your_Life.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

2019 has arrived, and with it, another opportunity to enjoy life, grow, and focus on the future.

One of my anchoring quotes for this year comes from Carl Jung: "I am not what happened to me, I get to choose who I become."

That might be hard to believe for those of us who constantly focus on the past, but it's true: Your past doesn't have to define your future. By drawing on courage, vulnerability, and your resilience, you can become whoever you want to be.

 Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/2SuEN19

Direct download: 73-You_get_to_choose_who_you_become.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Years ago my daughter's pre-school (yes I said years ago) would celebrate each child's birthday by saying goodbye to their old age and hello to their new age. I loved this and have been using this to move from one ending to a new beginning.

You and I are doing it for the New Year!

In today's short BONUS episode I give you three things to do to close out 2018 and enter 2019.  It will take you 15 minutes.  Set a timer and don't go over 20 minutes MAX!

 

Direct download: Goodby_2018...HELLO_2019_BONUS.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:57am PDT

Before ENOUGH, Steve didn't realize he could change.  Even though he's 54 years old and very intelligent, he didn't know that he could chnage the way he did things, the way he reacted to things. Instead one of his standard behaviors was to numb with his phone and the computer. 

Sound familiar?

Steve shares his journey with you to what is possible when one commits to oneself.

If this is possible for Steve...what is possible for you?

 

Direct download: What_is_possible_when_one_commits_to_oneself.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:05pm PDT

Vulnerability is becoming a common buzzword these days.  You can hear it on TV shows like Scandal and Nashville.  You pick up a book and the word is there.

Why all the talk?  In today's podcast I discuss why vulnerability is here and how it's vital for you to live the life you really, really, really want!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • What vulnerability is
  • Why it's important/vital for you to live the life you want
  • The difference between fear + vulnerability
Direct download: What_the_heck_is_all_this_talk_about_vulnerability.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Are you a people pleaser?  That's a nice way to call it instead of my favorite term of "approval whore."  

Today I've invited one of my clients to talk about her journey with life coaching and how she went from an "approval whore" to the ability to own her voice even if that meant an important person in her life would hate her.

You are getting the back stage pass of what happens and what it's really like to transform and become the best version of you.  Rose discusses her fears about doing this as well as her successes. 

Check out the show http://bit.ly/2UJj2w2

Direct download: Living_the_Tools_of_Life_Coaching_Case_Study.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:37am PDT

You want to change.

You really, really want to change.

Do you believe you can change?

And even if you did want to change and believed you could change you aren’t sure how to change.

I have just the thing for you in today’s podcast: the process with real tangible stories for you to change.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • Making the decision to change
  • Committing to the decision and the steps for you to take.
  • Believing before….
  • Accountability practice

RESOURCES FOR YOU

  • Ready to join the ENOUGH program. Join the waitlist to the ENOUGH program.
  • If you want to start cultivating your ENOUGHness sign up HERE to get weekly SUNDAY LOVE + FRIDAY PODCAST and so much more…

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Direct download: I_can_change_DEEP_DIVE.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Stop waiting for others to give you permission. You are an adult now and you get to give yourself permission.

You want to be the leader of your life. You want to be empowered. You want to create the results in your life that your heart desires. It all starts with giving yourself permission.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • As an adult you are the leader of your life
  • Permission is a compassionate practice
  • How to give yourself permission
  • Permission examples

FEATURED ON THE SHOW

  • Learn more about the ENOUGH program
  • Ready to join the ENOUGH program. Join the waitlist to the ENOUGH program.

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Direct download: Give_yourself_permission_MINISODE_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

I used to believe once I “arrived” I would no longer have problems. If I planned, achieved, did it all perfectly there would no longer be any messes.

One would believe this promise of no messes would create bliss in our lives. The reality is that it creates tremendous pain + frustration.

In this episode I talk about the beauty of the mess and how you will empower your life by living with this re-frame. The mess is actually suppose to happen and there is so much for you to gain.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • the teachers in our lives
  • the lessons from the mess
  • becoming resilient

RESOURCES FOR YOU

  • Ready to join the ENOUGH program. Join the waitlist to the ENOUGH program.
  • If you want to start cultivating your ENOUGHness sign up HERE to get weekly SUNDAY LOVE + FRIDAY PODCAST and so much more…

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Direct download: The_beauty_in_the_mess_DEEP_DIVE.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

I feel like dirt is not a feeling.

And even better, this crappy feeling you have won’t last forever. In this podcast we discuss why it’s important to identify and feel the feeling and how to move through it so the feelings stop overtaking you and your life.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • Clarity on what feelings are
  • How long feelings actually last
  • How to feel your feelings
  • Importance of emotional intelligence

RESOURCES FOR YOU

  • Ready to join the ENOUGH program. Join the waitlist to the ENOUGH program.
  • If you want to start cultivating your ENOUGHness sign up HERE to get weekly SUNDAY LOVE + FRIDAY PODCAST and so much more…

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Direct download: This_feeling_wont_last_forever_MINISODE.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:34am PDT

“Why is Koren talking about FAKE UGGS??”

Growing up poor with a lot of shame around money, Mocassin shoes and UGG boots were a big teacher for me. In this podcast I talk about money shame, fitting in and belonging and the lessons you will learn from overcoming the shaming from our cultural beliefs.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • How moccasins meant I was acceptable.
  • The difference between fitting in and belonging
  • Shame + Money
  • Closing the gap

RESOURCES FOR YOU

  • Ready to join the ENOUGH program. Join the waitlist to the ENOUGH program.
  • If you want to start cultivating your ENOUGHness sign up HERE to get weekly SUNDAY LOVE + FRIDAY PODCAST and so much more…

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Direct download: When_You_Can_Wear_Fake_Uggs_.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:00am PDT

Feeling uncomfortable. Want to run away? Want to hide?

I get it. And here I’m asking you to become comfortable with the uncomfortable.

Join me today as I dive into why we don’t want to be uncomfortable + how you will actually benefit from becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable. And I’ll also share with you why the altnerative sucks.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • Why we don’t want to be uncomfortable.
  • How you will actually benefit from becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.
  • Why the alternative sucks.

RESOURCES FOR YOU

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Direct download: Becoming_comfortable_with_the_uncomfortable.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

Reduce your brain juice drain.
I’m sharing with you how deciding ahead of time supports your life and isn’t restrictive.
Want to feel better? I have a special workbook for you. Make sure you download it.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • Making the wrong decision
  • Reducing brain juice drain
  • Deciding ahead of time actually supports you not restricts you.

RESOURCES FOR YOU

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Direct download: Deciding_Ahead_of_Time_Deep_Dive.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:38am PDT

Stop the drama.
Find out about one of your precious resources your brain juice.
Stop wasting your your brain juice.
Be deliberate about where you want to use it and how it will be maximized.
Remember to grab the MINDSET PRACTICE workbook I use with my clients!

Make sure you download it.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • What’s brain juice
  • Brain juice depeletion
  • Three types of business

RESOURCES FOR YOU

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Direct download: Brain_Juice_MINISODE.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 6:48am PDT

How often do you find yourself saying “This shouldn’t be happening.”
What happens when you do that.
What’s a better alternative.
Remember to grab the MINDSET PRACTICE workbook I use with my clients!

Make sure you download it.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • What happens when we resist + argue
  • Byron Katie’s insight “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.”
  • Resistance
  • Overcoming
  • What to replace “This shouldn’t be happening.”

RESOURCES FOR YOU

Thank You for Listening!

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Direct download: This_shouldnt_be_happening_DEEP_DIVE.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

It’s time to celebrate 12 years of this podcast and this journey we have all been on.
In today’s show, I have a special guest for you. She is a long time listener and has been through the show’s evolvement as well as her own personal evolvement as a client.
Join us as Miriam shares with you her experience of implementing the topics I discuss on How She Really Does It into her life.
Not only is this the place where inspiration + possibility meet, but it’s also the place where one actually implements all this content into real life.

Remember to grab the MINDSET PRACTICE workbook I use with my clients and Miriam too!

Make sure you download it.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • what does mindset practice look like
  • committing to the best case scenario
  • behind the scenes of what it really looks like in a clients life
  • self-help + highlighting books

RESOURCES FOR YOU

Thank You for Listening!

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Category: -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

There are so many stories playing in our heads.
They are often lies.
Painful lies we listen to all day long.
Let’s stop that.
You want to build a relationship of trust with yourself.
Join me….

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • Many lies we tell ourselves
  • How to know if it’s a lile
  • What to do if it’s really true?
  • What to do it it’s a lie

THANK YOU FOR LISTENING

There are a lot of podcasts you could be listening to today, and you chose mine. I am filled with gratitude for being a part of your day.

Tell me what you found most useful in today s show:

  1. Leave an honest review on iTunes review. Your ratings and reviews help out the show and I read each one and give shout-outs at the end of the show to each reviewer.
  2. Subscribe on iTunes to the show.

Thanks for listening to How She Really Does It, the place where inspiration + possibility meet.

I am smiling big for you!

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Direct download: The_Lies_We_Tell_Ourselves.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

You have the ability to feel better.
Eating ice cream is NOT really feeling better. It is numbing. So is binge watching Netflix. Or drinking too much.
In those instances we are trying to take away the pain but really we add more pain later as we then beat ourselves for knowing better than we do.

In today’s episode I do a DEEP DIVE and teach you the steps to feeling better. I’ve also got a work book for you to do your MINDSET PRACTICE.

Make sure you download it.

LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • Feelings are an inside job + what that means
  • The importance of understanding your feelings
  • Where your feelings come from
  • The key to feeling better – PRACTICE
  • Some better feeling thoughts for you to practice with

FEATURED ON THE SHOW

 

Thank You for Listening!

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

You have worked really, really hard.
You have done your best to be a good person.
You have sacrificed yourself for others.
However you are still not where you want to be.
In this show I am discussing why your mindset is the key to unlocking the life you truly want.

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Mentioned in this Podcast

Thank You for Listening!

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Direct download: Mindset-_The_Key_to_Unlocking_the_Life_You_Truly_Want_BONUS.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

A very important lesson I learned some years back…
If people like you or don’t like you, it has nothing to do with you!

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • difference between not being liked and doing harm to others
  • who we like
  • when we don’t like others

FEATURED ON THE SHOW

Thank You for Listening!

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

We are fantastic at living in fear .
Think about the last time you were in fear what did you do?
When I used to live in fear, I didn’t know what my mind was saying.
LISTEN HERE

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • what happens when you live in fear
  • the difference in living in fear + feeling the fear
  • what you can do about it.

FEATURED ON THE SHOW

Thank You for Listening!

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

We all understand the fear of failure.
We can talk the growth mindset about making mistakes growing and learning, but really how good are you at failing?
How willing are you at sucking at something, especially something important?
When you think of failure what do you make it mean?
  • I’m not enough?
  • I’m a loser
  • There s something wrong with me.
  • It s not possible for me, it s only for other special people

And I’m talking about the Fear of Success. What is success, why we are afraid of it and what we do to sabotage it.

Finally, what you can do to overcome both your fear of failure and your fear of success.

LISTEN HERE

MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • Fear of Success
  • What is success
  • What you can do about it.

Discover how to create a way of living where the best version of yourself can show up.

 

Thank You for Listening!

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

My clients get upset because they know better. However they are frustrated and then get even more frustrated with themselves because they are frustrated.

This is the beginning of a snowball effect, where the feeling grows and festers.

Discover what you can do and why it’s important to stop being frustrated about being frustrated.

LISTEN HERE

MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • Why this isn’t helpful
  • What to do about it instead
  • Learn about what causes your frustration

Discover how to create a way of living where the best version of yourself can show up.

 

Thank You for Listening!

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

What’s the cost to you for staying small in your life?

To not be seen.

To not use your voice.

To not pursue what you really, really, really want.

I know you will tell me it’s safe…

However, listen to this MINISODE to find out the cost to you and what you need to show up in your life.

 

LISTEN HERE

MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • Examples of staying small
  • The cost to you for staying small in your life
  • What you need to show up in your life
  • The truth

Discover how to create a way of living where the best version of yourself can show up.

 

Thank You for Listening!

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:00am PDT

We have many areas in our lives.

Family. Work. Marriage. Partners. Friends. Community. Sports. Parenting.

In this Deep Dive, I discuss one arena that you can use as a metaphor for one of your own arena’s along with the steps of what to do to find out what you believe about yourself in your arena.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • small hinges can move big doors
  • being a deliberate creator
  • how beliefs create reality
  • results as a reflection of what we believe
  • steps for you to discover what you believe

Discover how to create a way of living where the best version of yourself can show up.

 

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Instead of offloading hurt to others, it’s about feeling your feelings and moving through them by standing your sacred ground.

In this Deep Dive, I discuss how our feelings affect others and what we can do about it.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • Offloading our emotions to others
  • Hot potatoe effect
  • Importance to understand shame and know shame
  • Where our feelings come from
  • What’s the energy you want to put into your environment?

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:42am PDT

You want guarantees that it will work. Then you will risk being vulnerable and start believing.

However, that is not how you achieve the results you want.

In this Deep Dive, I discuss why seeing is not believing and what you need to do instead.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • I’ll believe it when I see it
  • Believe to achieve
  • Belief examples

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Stanford psychologist Professor Carol Dweck research has focused on why people succeed and how to foster success. In her book Mindset, Professor Dweck states “how you think of yourself can determine the outcomes of your life.”

Listen to the interview as Professor Dweck explains:

  • Growth & Fixed Mindset
  • Mindset vs talent
  • Self – esteem & Mindset
  • Children & Mindset
  • Changing Mindset

Following the interview I asked Professor Dweck “What is the relationship between possessing a growth mindset and success as an entrepreneur.” Professor Dweck responded:

“…in my book I have a chapter on business and leadership in which I analyze the characteristics of successful leaders: the desire to take on challenges (as opposed to the desire to feed one’s ego), the desire for honest feedback (as opposed to the flattering feedback), the ability to face problems and setbacks and remain effective (as opposed to denying problems or blaming them on others), the desire to have great people on your team (as opposed to being threatened by others’ talents). These qualities are especially important in times like these, and each is a characteristic of the growth mindset. Recent research has examined this directly, examining business people who had breakout results with a new idea or product. The major thing they shared was a growth mindset.”

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We all have obstacles. We tend to indulge in the drama that these obstacles should NOT be happening…

However, my friend, we all have obstacles. The question is what are you going to do about it.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • how do you react to obstacles
  • compassion + curiosity
  • obstacles and mindset
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Category:general -- posted at: 7:13am PDT

How often are you measuring your success by the definition of others?

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  • What is the definition of success
  • Steps to discover your own definition
  • The Promise of Success

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Author Mike Robbins returns to talk about the importance of bringing your whole self to work and to your life.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • Your ability to fully show up
  • What to do when terrified and under pressure
  • How to overcome obstacles
  • The desire for recognition and appreciation

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Most of us don’t want to do it.

It’s scary + hard. But we can do hard things.

Today’s podcast is about betting on yourself.

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  • examples of betting on oneself
  • Martyr vs Doing it yourself
  • Components to being able to bet on one self

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Our lives are filled with pressure. It’s not about avoiding pressure, but about the ability to withstand pressure and move through it. Not to be taken down from pressure.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • pressure is normal
  • it is something you can get used to
  • no need for unnecessary pressure/drama
  • build your pressure muscle

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The one thing I know for sure is we all want (and need) a place to belong.

In this Deep Dive, I discuss the difference our desire to belong over fitting in.

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MENTIONED ON THE SHOW

  • fitting in vs. belonging
  • finding our tribe/community
  • perfection + belonging
  • our fear
  • self-hatred
  • creating belong for yourself

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